As someone who is currently involved with a man in the midst of a divorce let me give some advice to those of you who may be contemplating getting into a similar situation...
Make sure you have the respect or the distance either one.
Until that divorce is FINAL, his commitment is to her...legally, financially, and sometimes emotionally.
Honestly, and this is my opinion, he told you these things to push you away so that it will be easier for him.
So he is telling you to move on.afraid of you, women in general, right now and he is afraid of hurting you because of those issues with women.
I love him, but I also hate him for coming into my life, passing through it like a tornado and just left leaving me to clean up the destruction he left me in.